Ourselves

Do you already know that your existence—who and how you are—is in and of itself a contribution to the people and place around you? Not after or because you do some particular thing, but simply the miracle of your life. And that the people around you, and the place(s), have contributions as well? Do you understand that your quality of life and your survival are tied to how authentic and generous the connections are between you and the people and place you live with and in?

 

Running a server can take a wide array of technical and design skills, but it can also take curiousity and a compassion.

We learn to disrespect Indigenous and direct ties to land.

e We learn to be quiet, polite, indirect, and submissive, not to disturb the status quo.

e We learn facts out of context of application in school. How will this history, science, math show up in our lives, in the work of growing community and home?

e We learn that tests and deadlines are the reasons to take action. This puts those with good short-term memories and a positive response to pressure in leadership positions, leading to urgency-based thinking, regardless of the circumstance.

e We learn to compete with each other in a scarcity-based economy that denies and destroys the abundant world we actually live in.

e We learn to deny our longings and our skills, and to do work that occupies our hours without inspiring our greatness.

e We learn to manipulate each other and sell things to each other, rather than learning to collaborate and evolve together.

e We learn that the natural world is to be manicured, controlled, or pillaged to support our consumerist lives. Even the natural lives of our bodies get medicated, pathologized, shaved or improved upon with cosmetic adjustments.

e We learn that factors beyond our control determine the quality of our l1ves—something as random as which skin, gender, sexuality, ability, nation, or belief system we are born into sets a path for survival and quality of life.

e Inthe United States specifically, though I see this most places I travel, we learn that we only have value if we can produce—only then do we earn food, home, health care, education.

e Similarly, we learn our organizations are only as successful as our fundraising results, whether the community impact is powerful or not.

e We learn as children to swallow our tears and any other inconvenient emotions, and as adults that translates into working through red flags, value differences, pain, and exhaustion.

e We learn to bond through gossip, venting, and destroying, rather than cultivating solutions together.

e Perhaps the most egregious thing we are taught is that we should just be really good at what’s already possible, to leave the impossible alone.

 


Thinking skills

Personal skills

Interpersonal skills


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Created 11 May 2025 03:28:11 by metaphorraccoon
Updated 22 May 2025 04:53:42 by metaphorraccoon